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Monday, July 28, 2008

Walking with Sorrow

While I'm still trying to find my own words to express some portion of what I'm feeling, I thought I'd share some of these words, expressed by others much more eloquently than what I could say. We also wanted to thank all of you for your thoughts and prayers for us... we have never felt such a tangible strength from prayers offered for us. They have carried us through the events of the last week and our hearts have been deeply touched by the kindness and love extended to us. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Some thoughts on the purposes of sorrow and pain:

Robert Browning Hamilton wrote: 

I walked a mile with Pleasure. 
She chattered all the way, 
But left me none the wiser 
For all she had to say. 
I walked a mile with sorrow, 
And ne'er a word said she; 
But oh, the things I learned from her 
When sorrow walked with me!! 

In the book "Faith Precedes the Miracle", it reads: 

"Being human, we would expel from our lives physical pain and mental anguish and assure ourselves of continual ease and comfort, but if we were to close the doors upon sorrow and distress, we might be excluding our greatest friends and benefactors. Suffering can make saints of people as they learn patience, long-suffering, and self-mastery." 

Quoted by Spencer W. Kimball, Faith Precedes the Miracle, p. 99:

Pain stayed so long I said to him today,
"I will not have you with me anymore."
I stamped my foot and said, " Be on your way,"
And paused there startled at the look he wore.
"I, who have been your friend," he said to me,
"I, who have been your teacher -- all you know
Of understanding love, of sympathy,
And patience, I have taught you. Shall I go?" 
He spoke the truth, this strange unwelcome guest;
I watched him leave, and knew that he was wise.
He left a heart grown tender in my breast.
He left a far, clear vision in my eyes.
I dried my tears, and lifted up a song --
Even for one who'd tortured me so long. 



Deetsgirl said...

I just happened on your blog and am encouraged by your posts. I hurt for you as I went thru this last December. I just keep the faith that only God knows the wonderful little ones we have waiting for us in Heaven.

Kim said...

Love you little family. Praying for you each day. Thank you for your thoughts and words, they strengthen us all.

Mindy said...

Marc and Megan:

You don't know me, I am a friend of Rachel Allred. I found your blog from hers and have been reading about what has been happening in your lives the past few weeks. I want you to know that your faith and trust in the darkest days you will ever know are giving light to those around you (even to a complete stranger in Utah!). When we see you continue onward through such heartache and sorrow you have let so many of us realize that we can continue to do so in our dark days. The lives you have touched are countless. I hope you know that we are grateful. God bless you both. :)

The Torgerson's said...

I am praying for you also. I wish I didn't know the pain you are going through. I lost my twins too. They also had TTS. I hate learning of someone else loosing a child. Even more so twins I have never met someone who lost twins. I pray that you will recieve the same peace that we have felt. I often say "I prayed for a miracle and I didn't recieve the one I wanted but, I received the miracle of peace. I truly feel that it is a miracle. I have my moments where I can barely take it but I know that my savior is with me to help me through. You are so strong and I hope and pray that you can feel you Savior's love and of your sweet girls Elliana and Emmaline.
I hope you recieve the lords tender mercies at this time. At times it is the only thing that gets me through.
If you need any support or need someone to talk to I would love it if you emailed me at

Brenley and her boys! said...

Your strength is amazing! Thank you for being such an amazing example to all of us! We love you!